Don’t Criticize and Judge Others

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The below teachings of Mother Mirra have been taken from the book: Words of Mother II. It is a superb book to read for any sadhak who is looking to introspect and improve themselves. Most importantly it is in this book that Mother Mirra has detailed: How God works and how we can get the Help of the Divine Grace in times of difficulties.

Mother and Sri Aurobindo - Don't Judge Others
“The more a mind is ignorant, the more easily it judges everything it does not know or is incapable of understanding. I want the peace to come into your mind and also the quiet, patient wisdom which prevents one from jumping to hasty conclusions and judgments.”
– Mother Mirra

Be More Compassionate and less Judgmental

Before deciding that something is wrong in others or in circumstances, you must be quite sure of the correctness of your judgment–and what judgment is correct so long as one lives in the ordinary consciousness that is based on ignorance and filled with falsehood?

Only the Truth-Consciousness can judge. So it is better, in all circumstances, to leave the judgment to the Divine.

Whenever somebody is not according to the usual pattern, if all the parts and activities in him have not the usual balance, if some faculties are more or less missing and some others are exaggerated, the common and easy habit is to declare him “abnormal” and to be done with him after this hasty condemnation.

When this summary judgment is passed by somebody in a position of power the consequences can be disastrous. Such people ought to know what true compassion is, then they would act differently.

Do not trouble yourselves with what others do, I cannot repeat it to you too often. Do not judge, do not criticise, do not compare. That is not your lookout.
– Mother Mirra, Words of Mother II

Our Negative Thoughts Reach People Even Before We Speak and Cause Them to React Badly Towards Us

The first necessity is to abstain from thinking of anyone in a deprecatory way. When we meet a person, our criticising thoughts give to him, so to say, a blow on the nose which naturally creates a revolt in him. It is our mental formation that acts like a deforming mirror to that person, and then one would become queer even if one were not.

Why cannot people remove from their minds the idea that somebody or other is not normal? By what criterion do they judge? Who is really normal? I can tell you that not a single person is normal, because to be normal is to be divine.

Man has one leg in animality and the other in humanity. At the same time he is a candidate for divinity. His is not a happy condition. The true animals are better off. And they are also more harmonious among themselves. They do not quarrel as human beings do. They do not put on airs, they do not consider some as inferiors and keep them at a distance.

You have no right to judge a man unless you are capable of doing what he does better than himself.
– Mother Mirra, Words of Mother II

Be Kind to Others

One must have a sympathetic outlook and learn to cooperate with one’s fellows, building them up and helping them instead of sneering at whatever seems not up to the mark.

Even if somebody has a deficiency and is hypersensitive and self-willed, you cannot hope to improve him by summary measures of compulsion or expulsion. Do not try to force his ego by your own, by behaving according to the same pattern. Guide him gently and understandingly along the lines of his own nature. See whether you can place him where he can work without coming into conflict with others.

If those who are in power are puffed up with their own importance, they disturb the true working. Whatever their abilities, their achievement is not the real thing. But it is not that they are always lacking in good-will. They have false ideas of what is proper. If they become more conscious of the divine aim, they can surely succeed in carrying it out.

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